Yes, that’s me! I did it! On July 6th, 2013 I went skydiving for the first time and the experience was everything I wanted it to be and more. If you read my last blog, “The Thing You Fear the Most“, you know that I took a lot of baby steps to get to this place. It feels a little surreal to have this experience behind me. I’m excited to report that everything went almost exactly as I had visualized it would. I had a beautiful day, a competent tandem instructor, and I was actually present for the experience. I enjoyed it! (As you may be able to tell from the smile on my face.) Knowing what you want is so important in life. You will never hit a target you don’t aim for. I definitely hit my target with this experience. The coolest thing I saw was a circular rainbow in one of the clouds. I looked this up on the internet and learned that they are very rare and have a special name. They are called a “glory”. There is no doubt in my mind that this was a sign from God. When I saw the glory I had an overwhelming sense of peace and just knew I was going to be OK. Click here to see a picture that is similar to what I saw. It was beautiful!
People keep asking me how it was and the simplest answer is, “Amazing!”. I’m finding it hard to put the experience in to words. I think that’s because it really wasn’t about the physical act of jumping out of a plane for me, but rather it was about turning and facing a fear rather than running from it. It was about rewriting a rule in the rule book of my life.
You see, I spent a good portion of my life avoiding a lot of the things that scared me. One of the the rules in Laura’s little book of life rules was, “If it scares you, figure out a way to avoid it!”. What, you never heard of that book!?! Hmm…well whether you know it or not, you too have a rule book that you operate out of. Some of the rules really work for you and make life more peaceful, happy and full, while other rules can get in your way and keep you from living the life you want to live. I encourage you to think about this rule book idea for yourself? Do you know your rules? Which ones are supporting you, and which ones are holding you back? How do you feel about rewriting the ones that are no longer serving you?
When I decided that I wanted to rewrite my rule around the things that scare me, I started thinking a lot about the word FEARLESS. What does it take to be fearless? The dictionary defined fearless as, “without fear, brave”. I figured I could practice being brave, but I wasn’t sure how to be without fear. I decided that breaking down the word made sense to me. I could work on being fearless by fearing less. My new rewritten rule became, “Feel the fear, but do it anyway.”. What I found was that the more I did something the less scary it became; I feared it less. When I felt anxious or scared by something, instead of running from it, I looked at it as an opportunity to practice my new rule, feel the fear, but do it anyway. I was making the choice to see things that made me uncomfortable as an opportunity, rather that something to be avoided. It wasn’t easy, and there were many times I was tempted by the old rule, but I was determined. I saw skydiving as a very physical symbol. Fear made me feel like a bird tethered to the ground. There were things I wanted to do, but I was afraid. I wanted the freedom to fly untethered. Skydiving, because it was something that at one point I thought I couldn’t do because of fear, represented freedom. It way my way to soar. I’ve found in the last week, whenever something starts to scare me, all I have to do is remind myself that I jumped out of a plane, and actually enjoyed it and look forward to doing it again. With this big fear behind me, it puts everything else in perspective. I am basking in the freedom of believing that I can do anything I put my mind to.
Skydiving was a major fear of mine and was the thing I just knew intuitively I needed to conquer to prove to my self that I could fear-less. What is your thing? What are you avoiding that you know, deep down, you really want to turn and face. What’s your plane? What are you ready to jump from? Where are you ready to soar? Let’s break the chains of fear and really fly! I know you can do it!
Today’s author: Laura Hall is an iPEC certified life coach whose business, Hall Coaching, was established in 2009 with the vision of waking women up from the nightmares of “How did I get here?” and, “Is this as good as it gets?”, so that they can begin creating and living the life of their real dreams, hopes and desires. She offers both one on one as well as group coaching services. She can be reached at [email protected] or check out her website at www.hallcoaching.com